If you’ve ever turned to astrology before, then you know there are tons of astrological sources out there that promise to tell you all about your relationship, and if you and your “special someone” are compatible.
Please beware - some of them are pretty compelling, yet some of them are utter nonsense.
I’ve been in the New Age world most of my life, and have been a professional astrologer since 1991, so I know what I’m talking about when it comes to astrology and compatibility.
I’ve read over one hundred astrology books and studied for more than a decade under some of the most acclaimed astrologers in the world. I’ve given thousands of readings (the vast majority of which were about relationships) and even wrote a book, Love Is in the Stars, in the hopes that I could dispel a lot of misinformation about astrology, and could share little-known enlightening truths about astrology and relationships that can transform anyone’s love life for the better.
Here’s the thing – most sources dealing with astrological compatibility check to see if you have harmonious Sun signs and if there are any planetary “conjunctions” or “aspects” between your charts that are significant (a technique called “synastry”), and some of them even throw some numerology into the mix...
But this isn’t going deeply enough, isn’t focusing on what really matters, and isn’t scientifically valid!!
Don’t get me wrong, you might learn some valuable insights, and find some nuances that feel true for you, but it’s certainly not enough to help you to decide what to do with your relationship, and is usually no help at all as to how to improve things.
Here’s why:
Reason#1: Most Sources Are Based On The Wrong Information
Comparing your Sun sign to that of a specific man tells you next to nothing about your relationship, because Sun signs are not a reflection of how you or anyone else relate.
Sun signs influence behavior and how you present yourself to the world, but will have nothing to do with your emotional temperament.
In fact, if you want to know if you are fundamentally compatible with a man, you need to rely on an entirely different part of your chart. A part of your chart most astrologers don’t even know about!
Why is this so important? Well, the problem is your chart can seem like it goes really well with a man’s if your Sun signs are good together, and if your charts have positive “synastry,” creating great “connections” between your horoscopes. But there’s something far more critical that comparing Sun signs and looking to synastry don’t address at all, and if this critical thing doesn’t work with him, then those positive connections won’t typically be enough to “carry the day...” and may actually further bind you to a man that’s wrong for you! And, amazingly, you can be very happy with a man with whom your Sun sign doesn’t “go well” and with whom you have “bad” connections, if this critical thing is working for you...
In other words, relying solely on your Sun sign or simple “planet to planet” comparisons to determine your compatibility is a recipe for a love disaster!
Reason #2: Most Sources Aren’t Specific Enough
Did you know that your chart can be COMPLETELY different if you were born in the morning or born at night?
Or that where you were born can also completely change the chart?
It’s true. Your time of day and place of birth changes everything.
As crazy as it sounds, your compatibility with a man born on a certain day can be fantastic if he was born in the morning, but terrible if he was born in the afternoon, great if he born in the Northern Hemisphere, but lousy if he was born in the Southern – it’s that hair-splittingly sensitive!
So here’s the problem: Many sources only use birth dates when determining compatibility, therefore there are a whole lot of women making MAJOR decisions about their love lives… on incomplete or downright bad information!
Reason #3: Most Sources Don’t Focus on What REALLY Matters
Not only is it important that you focus on the right elements of your chart and that is accurate and specific enough to help you know WHAT’S REALLY GOING ON between you and a man…
But there’s something ELSE you need to know, and it’s the most important thing of all – the “critical thing” I mentioned above...
How you’ll feel together.
Because how you both FEEL (which is discovered by understanding and comparing the emotional/psychological make-up of your charts) is what REALLY determines the success – or challenge – of a relationship in the long term.
Think about it. How many times have you been told someone was “perfect” for you, only to meet them in person and want to run for the nearest exit before he had a chance to say, “Nice to meet you...”?
That’s because you and a man can have nothing in common “on paper” but still be completely at ease and comfortable together. Conversely, you may have everything going for your relationship in terms of your resumes, and likes and dislikes, but not feel good together.
And there’s a technique that explains WHY.
